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How to get what you want from the world – more cat stretches and fewer crunchies
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I’ve always believed that communication is the most important life skill – in and out of work. Malcolm Gladwell agrees. In Outliers, he suggests that the way we: “Get what we want from the world” is by “Knowing what to say to whom, knowing when to say it and knowing how to say it for maximum effect.” Some people get this, others not so much…. Plenty has been written recently about the differences between Sir Keir Starmer and Andy Burnham. It’s generally agreed that one of the key factors in Starmer’s demise and Burnham’s ascendency is communication – Andy’s skill…

September 12, 2026 Read more
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In the Olympics, size really does matter. For us, it’s about respecting the audience.
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One of the quirkiest stories to come out of the Milan-Cortina winter Olympics was ‘penis-gate’. According to German newspaper BILD, ski jumpers have been injecting themselves with hyaluronic acid before being measured for their suits. Apparently, this can increase the circumference by one or two centimetres. Bigger appendage, bigger suit, more surface area, increased time in the air. Who knew!!! As well as marvelling at the incredible displays of skill and daring and endurance, I was interested in the array of different types of clothing worn by the athletes. Baggy for snowboarders, streamlined for speed skaters, elegant for figure skaters….

March 2, 2026 Read more
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Did we warm to the Easter bunny this year, and was she qualified to deliver the eggs?
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Many of you will, of course, have enjoyed the paper on Universal dimensions of social cognition: warmth and competence as published in Trends in Cognitive Sciences volume 11, number 2!!! I actually have read it (yes, I know I need to get out more), and I was fascinated by the conclusions and their implications for the people I work with. Academics from the universities of Princeton, Northwestern and Lawrence, including the fabulous Amy Cuddy, tell us that people who are perceived as both warm and competent elicit uniformly positive emotions and behaviour from those they communicate with. And, importantly, that…

April 29, 2025 Read more
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Trump, the Red Arrows and an overcooked sprout – we need to get better at giving and receiving feedback
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So, the Donald is assembling his team of advisors and cabinet members. All loyal supporters and kindred spirits. None likely to naysay their boss. A gush of ‘yes people’. Of course, he’s not alone in disliking criticism and rejecting negative feedback (such as losing an election). It would seem to be a growing phenomenon, especially among young professionals. They, themselves are telling me in the training room that they struggle to accept constructive criticism; that it makes them emotional and overly defensive. Team leaders, business owners and HR people are confirming that something is going on. For any of us…

December 9, 2024 Read more
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Just one small thing today for a gold medal tomorrow
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I don’t know about you but I was obsessed by the Olympics. I revelled in the technical expertise; I marvelled at the feats of endurance; I was in awe of the dedication, resilience and strength (mental and physical). 32 diverse sports but one thing in common for the ten thousand individuals who took part. It’s often called the ‘aggregation of marginal gains.’ Simply put, it’s attention to detail; identifying the small things we can improve by a tiny degree, to give us an edge over our rivals. In the incredible finish of the men’s 100 metres final, Noah Lyles won…

August 14, 2024 Read more
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TWO MINUTES OF LIGHT – how will you use yours?
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I’ve just ‘phoned an old family friend who’s been ill. She was thrilled to hear from me. The call lasted no more than a couple of minutes. Yesterday, I posted a positive review on Tripadvisor for a hotel I stayed in over the holidays. It took around 90 seconds. Since 21 December last year, I’ve been rather obsessed with the concept of two minutes because that’s how much extra daylight we get each day. In these troubled times, when there’s so much pain and negativity in the world, this has been making me happy. But then I thought – what…

January 16, 2024 Read more
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Stacking the dishwasher can make us better at ad libbing…
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I spent some of the bank holiday (quite a lot of it actually) sorting my kitchen cupboards. There was a lot of rationalisation to be done. For example, I discovered three half-empty jars of garam masala (BTW what even is that????). Now there’s one full jar. The contents of several bags of self-raising flour are now gloriously combined, and a random collection of water bottles has been transformed into a shelf of beauty, as you see in the ‘photo above. You may have deduced that I am slightly controlling or, with a more positive spin, I have good attention to…

August 29, 2023 Read more
Whatever you’re doing, stop now and listen to this. It will change your mood and it might even change your life….
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As part of my 2021 Christmas greeting/present to colleagues, clients and contacts, I ran a competition asking people to nominate an exceptional piece of communication which they had come across that year. Suggestions went into a hat and I pulled out the winner this week. Thank you and well done Emily Jones for alerting me to this podcast interview with the global phenomenon and inspirational human being Mo Gawdat = https://podcasts.apple.com/jm/podcast/e101-the-happiness-expert-that-made-51-million-people/id1291423644?i=1000538174002 I urge you to listen to this NOW. Yes, it’s a masterclass in the art of communication but, more than that, he offers a practical, simple formula for achieving…

January 13, 2022 Read more
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Authenticity – is it wrong to stand up straight when we’re giving a presentation?
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Someone remarked yesterday that I’m lucky not to have been affected by the pandemic. “Why do you assume that?” I queried. “Because you always seem so cheerful” came the reply. “That’s because I’m putting on a brave face!!!!!!!!! Presenting an optimistic façade rather than revealing the sadness I feel and the tears I shed for all the pain and disappointment in the world”. “Oh, but you never show that”. I wasn’t sure if this last comment was made with an undertone of admiration or criticism. In any case, I was slightly surprised at their lack of empathy and understanding. But…

December 20, 2021 Read more
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Don’t frighten them to death but, to have impact and be memorable, you must make people feel something……..
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Last Thursday I sat down in front of the TV with my family and my dinner.  “How about an episode of American Office?”, said Lucy.  “We haven’t watched it for ages.”  We all agreed so she lined one up. As the theme tune started, I felt the most extraordinary surge of emotion; a vivid, visceral recollection of lockdown and the many evenings we spent watching this series. It was a strange and slightly unsettling sensation. I was transported back to April 2020 – a period of heightened and intense feelings. Which is why the memories are so strong. And why…

October 31, 2021 Read more
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